The Space Between

Pause. Breathe. Receive.

Well, hello stranger! Or rather, hello from your very much still alive, deeply caffeinated, slightly chaotic Substack writer who has absolutely not abandoned you, even if it looked that way for a little while.

Honestly, life has been full. Full in the most beautiful, slightly overwhelming way. There’s been a full-time job (she persists!), the final stages of getting my book The Space Between ready to meet the world, and somewhere in between all of that, a ongoing attempt to also just be a human. Sleep, work out, eat something that isn’t just a snack, to remember what my friends look like in person. You know how it goes.

I’ve missed this space. I’ve missed you and I’m back with something I really wanted to share, because honestly? It feels more relevant than ever.

During manifestation, once you’ve set the intention, felt the feeling, released it to the universe, it can feel like nothing is happening. Your manifestation isn’t coming and Law of Attraction “doesn’t work”.

Welcome to the space between.

The gap between the wish and the wish fulfilled. The stretch of time between who you were when you asked, and who you’ll be when it arrives. It can feel like holding your breath. Like standing in a doorway between two worlds. Like watching a pot that refuses boil no matter how hard you stare at it.

What if the waiting wasn’t actually waiting at all?

What if the space between is the most sacred part of the whole journey?

Manifestation isn’t just about getting something. It’s about becoming someone who can hold it. The space between is the time you’re given to expand. To grow into the version of yourself who lives the life you’ve been dreaming of, and that growth is necessary, but it doesn’t happen overnight.

We live in a world that worships speed, instant gratification, overnight success and same day deliveries. We’ve been trained to treat delay as failure, as a sign that something has gone wrong, that we’re doing it incorrectly, that the universe has perhaps forgotten our address.

I promise the universe hasn’t forgotten you, you’re just being prepared.

This is why rushing the process, anxiously checking for signs, white-knuckling your desires, asking the universe why it’s taking so long, actually slows everything down. You’re trying to skip the biggest part.

So, What Do You Actually Do in the Meantime?

1. Fall in love with your current life.

This is the most counterintuitive and the most powerful thing you can do. Gratitude isn’t just a feel good practice, it’s a frequency. When you genuinely love what you already have, you stop operating from lack. Lack is the one thing that will keep your manifestation just out of reach.

Look around you right now. What’s already beautiful? What already works? Start there. Be on an honest scavenger hunt for the good that already exists in your life. The morning coffee, your favourite people, the way sunlight moves across a particular wall at a particular time of day. These things matter. They’re evidence that life is already working in your favour.

2. Tend to your inner world like a garden.

The space between is an invitation to go inward. Journal. Meditate. Sit in stillness and ask yourself what beliefs might still be blocking the flow. Often, what we’re waiting for is waiting on us. We need to clear the fear, heal the wound, release the old story we’ve been telling ourselves since before we even knew we were telling it.

What are you still carrying that doesn’t belong to you anymore?

This is the real work. Not vision boards (though I love a good vision board), not manifestation scripts, not obsessively calculating timelines. The real work is the inner archaeology, digging gently through the layers to find what’s true, what’s ready to be released, and what needs a little more light.

3. Act as if.

This doesn’t mean pretending or forcing. It means making small, loving choices that align with who you’re on your way to be. If you’re manifesting a peaceful home, create pockets of peace in your space today. Light the candle. Clear the corner. Put fresh flowers on the table, don’t just wait for a special occasion, you just exisiting is the special occasion.

If you’re calling in a loving relationship, practice being loving with yourself first. Speak to yourself with the kindness you’d offer to someone you adore. Make plans that excite you. Show up for your own life with the enthusiasm you’d bring to a relationship you were trying to impress. The universe meets you in your movement.

4. Let the desire breathe.

One of the most underrated skills in manifestation is letting go without giving up. You can still want something deeply without strangling it to death. Loosen your grip. Trust that what’s yours won’t miss you.

When you stop trying to manage the how and start focusing on the who, who you’re being in the present moment, something shifts. The energy changes and you become magnetic rather than desperate, open rather than grasping.

Desire with open hands.

5. Reconnect with joy for no reason at all.

This one is deceptively simple. What makes you feel alive? Not what’s on your vision board. Not what you’re working toward but right now! What brings you genuine, uncomplicated joy?

Dance in your kitchen. Read the book that has nothing to do with self-improvement. Take the long walk with no podcast, no purpose, just your own thoughts and the sky. Joy is not a reward for receiving your manifestation. Joy is part of the path. It’s a signal to the universe that you already know how to live well and that you’re ready for more.

6. Find the meaning in the middle.

Every season of waiting contains a lesson, a gift, or a redirection that you’ll only be able to see clearly in hindsight. This doesn’t mean you have to be relentlessly positive about it (permission granted to have the frustrated days, tearful evenings, moments of genuine doubt). But it does mean asking what is this time teaching me?

Sometimes the space between is asking you to slow down. Sometimes it’s redirecting you toward something better than what you originally asked for. Sometimes it’s simply building your capacity for trust, because the life you’re calling in is going to require it.

7. Remember, the space between isn’t empty.

It’s full of preparation, alignment and invisible work being done on your behalf. Things are moving even when you can’t see them. Roots grow underground long before flowers appear above the soil. Seasons change before you can see the evidence of them. Your manifestation is moving toward you even now, through closed doors and quiet nights, even on ordinary days that don’t feel significant but are.

The Gift of the space between

If you’ve been sitting in the space between something you’ve asked for and its arrival, I want you to understand that your manifestation is coming.

You’re in the sacred pause. The space where transformation happens not in spite of the waiting, but because of it.

I know this space all too well. I’ve lived in it while writing this very book. I’ve sat with the uncertainty, the wondering, the deep desire to skip ahead to the part where everything has arrived and settled and made sense. I’ve learned that the arrival of your manifestation is never really the point. The point is who you are in the reaching.

This is the space I wrote about in The Space Between because I believe this is where the real magic lives. Not in the moment of receiving, but in the parts that makes receiving possible. I wanted to write the book I needed when I was standing in that doorway myself, not quite here and not quite there, learning how to trust your current state of limbo.

So breathe. Tend your inner garden. Love your life. Trust the timing.

And know that what is meant for you is already on its way.

If this resonated with you, The Space Between: How to Hold Your Vision, Trust the Timing, and Receive What You've Been Calling In goes deeper into exactly this.